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I have grandchildren, a nearly 11 years old boy and 14 years old girl, with parents in a stable and happy marriage in the upper middle-class social strata. They read and excel at math and do well in school. They play in school and in extracurricular sports and participate in band. Phones are not allowed in the classrooms. They have a reasonable amount of independence, though to avoid being turned into the nanny state enforcers, the 10 year old isn't allowed to walk three blocks to school unaccompanied. They don't watch network television but they do have access to streaming children's shows, many of which I'm sure are woke and progressive. The two have a remarkably good relationship, get along well and are always well-behaved in public and most of the time in general.

My 14 year old granddaughter got her smart phone when she was 13, all the parental controls engaged. No access to You Tube or Social Media, and as much of internet search capability curtailed as possible. Her phone is turned off and in her parent's possession once she goes to bed. The schools they attend don't seem to be afflicted with Furries or Trannies or teachers with rainbow hair, tattoos and facial metal.

All good, so far. At least they don't talk about wanting to be a different gender. Actually, they don't talk much. Granddaughter has her face in front of her phone as long as it is in her possession, at least when they are with me. Grandson has his face in front of his iPad playing video games. To my chagrin, the parental units are giving him a phone for his 11th birthday in May, so only the top of his head will be visible once that happens. They are both very attractive kids. Too bad their faces are rarely seen.

I'm just an old grannie, about as with it as can be expected, so I can't compete against the allure of digital distraction. Neither am I very imaginative so thinking up competing distractions is beyond me. So, I feel like I'm invisible to them. When I was a kid all the way up to now I had a book in front of my face, but at least I put it down once in awhile!

The ubiquity of devices of one kind or another are taking my grands away from real life and before long they will only want to live in VR, and in fact be rendered unable to live and communicate in RL to any degree other than basic.

I'm not sure why my son and d-i-l didn't wait longer to give them these hellish devices, and aren't imposing time limits on usage, other than they don't want to make them more desirable because they are unattainable. I can only hope that the pendulum will swing in the other direction before all humans, if any are left, are completely zombified.

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Taylor’s career was astroturfed from the start. She was featured in a Super Bowl parade in my hometown very early on, when she was promoting herself as a country singer, despite my city’s nonexistent relationship with that type of music. (We birthed a different, darker style.)

I attribute her longevity to women’s increased access to disposable income. She had three concerts here last fall, so there was considerable news coverage of the economic impact her followers had. Business owners gushed about her fans - who were, they said - polite, friendly, and actively trying to do good works in our city. (We host a summer event which is known for the number of “dine-and-dash” customers, as well as the stinginess of those who do stay and pay for their meal, so a nice change from that demographic.) There were no complaints that I heard from any quarter about their impact on the city, just positive reports.

I’m not a Taylor fan, so I can’t speak authoritatively about her concert experience, but if I had to guess, I would wager that she takes her audience on an emotional journey, which mirrors the experiences that women share in common. She has promoted the idea of women functioning collectively for some time now - her “posse,” her well-publicized friendships with other famous women - so attending a concert with many other like-minded women is a natural outgrowth of this. Creating a live experience of, by, and for women, with a central figure who is not actively modeling antisocial behavior is not a bad thing. It would be nice if she kept her thoughts about political matters to herself, but I imagine the pressure to make such matters public is hard to resist.

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